How to strike the balance between modernization and parenting

STRIKING THE BALANCE BETWEEN MODERNIZATION AND PARENTING Suzan a young ambitious lady got a job in one of the leading new generational banks, as expected, she worked long hours leaving the care of her 14months old son in the hand of her husband who is a mini musical studio owner/producer. Jerry finds it difficult to combine his duty as a man and that of a mother. Soon, they resort to dumping the boy with his maternal grandparents in the village. Before the seventies, there was a popular saying among the menfolk in Nigeria that the place of a woman is in the home. It was never envisaged that a woman could ever abandon the home to work elsewhere - thanks to girl's child education. Today, there is no profession without a good dose of women. Be it in the factory, classroom or banks the women work pari-passu with the menfolk. Evidence abounds to show that the modern women have achieved a tremendous success in all fronts. Having excelled - in all fields of human endeavour, the modern women now form an important part of today's labour force. Women have become co-breadwinners in most families and as co-breadwinners, they now have to work long hours outside the family. The garb of housewife has been done way with. Both husband and wife hurry off in the morning to get to the office on time, just as the children make their way to school. For most part of the day, the children are left on their own at home, with the house-help to look up to, for their lunch. Most women prepare the soup and store it in the freezer for the house-help to warm enough for the children. This method of preparing and stockpiling food may have taken care of the feeding, but other areas of care cannot be provided that way. Controlling what the children do, which is an important aspect of socialization, is now left in the hands of house-help, who is also an adolescent. Parental interaction with the children is thus restricted to late, evenings. Children, have attended lessons after school hours are so worn out that they soon go to bed before the parents get home. Even when the parents come home early, they are too tired even to chat with the children. Some parents even make the mistake of bringing unfinished work home, from the office. Any little time left 4 the children is again taken up by office work. Some house-helps even exert negative influence on, the children. These children spend the rest of the day playing and watching films. These films, more often than not - are vulgar films that should normally be reserve for adult viewing. Some go to viewing centres, these centres are breeding spots for drug addiction, sexual promiscuity, drunkenness and other variations of delinquence. There is nobody to monitor the movement and activities of these children. All ramifications of juvenile delinquency which include drug addiction, cult activities, sex-related crimes and truancy are all a direct fall-out of the changing role of women. Peer group influence on a child in his formative years, could alter his personality considerably. More often than not, they take their role models from among the peer group. Sometimes, their models are some stars in violent films. Children love tough actors and they want to imitate them. Is it any wonder then, the increase in violent crime rate among the youths? The mother is no more there to ensure that the child did his assignments or to go through his academic work. Where as family income is much improved by the wife changing her role from house wife to a co-breadwinner, the socialization of children is greatly hampered. The damage done in this' regard is, sometimes irreparable. Some mothers in a mistaken attempt to make it up to the children, now make money available to them on demand. What she does not realize is that she is inadvertently, financing illicit activities of the youths, who are the leaders of tomorrow are thus encouraged to go astray to the detriment of the family and society at large. If mothers were at home to guide and monitor the activities of these children, cult activities and incidence of dropping out of school - may have been in the decline. Perhaps what is desired here is re-educate parents on the importance of home train for children. Parents should relax their pursuit of wealth give more time to their children. Parental guidance is indispensable part of child training. There would be less cultists among our youths, if mothers could give a little more time to monitor and control the youths before they become uncontrollable. Furthermore, the wife is now economically independent of the husband. In some cases, the wife may even be bettter placed than the husband. In some families this is one source of friction. Equality of sex and women liberation are therefore a by-product of education and industrialization which have given an unlimited opportunity to women for advancement on the social ladder. Some men find it hard to swallow the idea having the woman enjoy so much independence. This has led to homes breaking up. Apart from the economical empowerment, working long hours in the office have exposed many women to sexual harassment many resulting in extra marital affairs. Infidelity is in the increase and it accounts to a high percentage of divorce and separation rate. Education has given the women a high degree of self confidence and they are no longer the suave, naive respectable wife they used to be in traditional societies. Today, education has opened the eyes of the women. There are many things she can no longer accept as the norm, just because the man said so. This explains the higher divorce rates among the educated women. This is not to imply that every educated woman is not subject to the husband. Most educated and matured couples see marriage as a social contract between two equals, with mutual respect for each other. Where this mutual respect is lacking, the man still sees the wife as a piece of property in the house and the wife see the husband as a chauvinist and in oppressor. This sets the stage for an unstable marriage and a possible broken home. This situation is more prevalent among young couples. The older couples try to strike a balance between the modern, educated family and the traditional family. Although the family's purchasing power is enhanced by both husband and wife working, the adverse effect on the stability of the family has negated any advantages so derived. Proponents of the traditional house wife role are quick to point to this in support of their view that the place of the woman is in the kitchen. However, in order to strike the balance between modernization and parenting, married women should relinguish office work for unmarried ladies and embrace enterpreneurial skills. As this will help reduce unemployment, curb sexual harrassment and also afford the woman the opportunity to play her role as a wife and mother.

How to be free from health challenges

An adage says "A healthy man is a wealthy man". This post explains how I graduated from ill health to healthy living as a result of God’s supernatural powers. September is special to me, not only because I was born in the month of september but it's also a memorable month (since 25/09/2013).

Years ago, it was malaria, HIV etc 'yesterday' it was ebola, 'today' it's lassa fever, 'tomorrow' I do not know and I'm not bothered.
Before 2013 the only one I had was malaria. I treat it every 3months but the last time I treated malaria was 2013 and I'm counting. Despite attempts by witches and wizards I'm enjoying sound health. U know why? Because my trust and confidence in time of difficulties is only in the one that created me with all the parts He knew I will need to function as human in place, even when I did not tell him to do this. In return, I obey Him because no matter the height of an okro tree the planter will bend it in other to achieve the purpose whereby it was planted.

In this world, you can't afford to be neutral; If you are, like yam, satan and his people will pound u anyhow, make a delicacy out of you and no one will fight for you because you did not acknowledge the fact that God and his people can rescue u from the group of persons that only specialize in causing sorrow.

In case you find yourself among these destroyers, now you're fed up and want to disassociate yourself from them but they've told you that you cannot disentangle yourself from the group. If u do, something terrible will happen. I, Esther Imabong Udeme says IT IS A LIE. Quote me anywhere: THEY ARE LIKE DOGS WITHOUT TOOTH. Approach the superior and gloat at their threat. I belong to that group where God is the grandmaster. That is why demonic people have been failing in all their plans since 2013. Among other things, they planned between december 2013 and 2014 to send me out of this world to the land of the dead but God rescued me so that I can tell the story and make MOCKERY of satanic powers. Is your health failing? You too can enjoy sound health. All you need do is obey the one that created you and made it possible for you to breath. Let me ask: How much do you pay for the air you are breathing? I am 100% sure you don't pay a dime because those paying for oxygen do not have the priviledge of reading this.

I marvel with great dismay how people trust in inferior powers like that of the ancestors, charm, witcraft, false things, things that cannot give explanation of how they came to be in existence, things that were made etc thereby under-rating the power of the only one that is able to create and give life. I've never seen, heard or read that witches, wizards or any other creates man and give him life. Then why should anyone assume they are superior? Pls THINK and avoid SINKING. If in your journey on earth God did not help u; it is your fault. Till 'tomorrow', God is still in the business of helping people. My message is summed up in the words of this song because the writer is very correct Trust and obey for there's no other way to be happy in this world than to trust and obey.